Does the Love of Your Life Want a Divorce and You Don"t Know What to Do? Here Is How to Stop It
You can take your parents love for granted and you can also take your siblings or your children for granted but you can never take your spouse's love for granted.
Marriage is one relationship which you constantly need to work on and nurture.
However, sometimes due to neglect on your part or your spouse's part the marriage heads south and a divorce becomes inevitable.
If you want to stop a marriage from falling apart, here are some useful tips.
Take a step back and think Marriage is a very fragile bond and you have to think very hard and analyze where things actually went wrong.
Don't blame the symptoms but try and find the underlying reasons for the tension.
You will need to coolly and dispassionately think and come to a conclusion.
Make a list of things that can be taken care of There will be lots of small and big reasons for the marriage to be on the verge of failing.
Make a list of all big and small reasons.
This is essential so that you can begin addressing the smaller issues as a confidence building measure.
The bigger problems can be dealt with the help of marriage counselors or experts.
Take ownership The first thing that you have to do is take ownership of your share so that your spouse will feel better and he/she will also do the same.
Once this is done, you have taken the first step in saving the marriage.
Sort out the small issues first Address all the minor irritants and encourage your spouse to do the same.
Once you do this you start seeing light at the end of the tunnel and this will further encourage both of you to address the main reasons.
Seek professional help Identify a professional marriage counselor and schedule an appointment.
Go there together and meet up with that professional.
It might take several sittings before he or she is able to give their assessment.
Once you have got a feedback make a joint resolve to solve all the issues amicably.
Start working on it This is perhaps the most important step that you will have to take.
On your part make a sincere effort to change.
Seeing you putting in your effort your spouse will also do that and she/he will meet you halfway.
This is just the beginning and soon enough you will find that things are not so bad after all.
Work on it Remember marriage is work in progress and you will have to continuously work on it to make it a success.
Don't go back to your old ways once you have avoided the inevitable.
Marriage is one relationship which you constantly need to work on and nurture.
However, sometimes due to neglect on your part or your spouse's part the marriage heads south and a divorce becomes inevitable.
If you want to stop a marriage from falling apart, here are some useful tips.
Take a step back and think Marriage is a very fragile bond and you have to think very hard and analyze where things actually went wrong.
Don't blame the symptoms but try and find the underlying reasons for the tension.
You will need to coolly and dispassionately think and come to a conclusion.
Make a list of things that can be taken care of There will be lots of small and big reasons for the marriage to be on the verge of failing.
Make a list of all big and small reasons.
This is essential so that you can begin addressing the smaller issues as a confidence building measure.
The bigger problems can be dealt with the help of marriage counselors or experts.
Take ownership The first thing that you have to do is take ownership of your share so that your spouse will feel better and he/she will also do the same.
Once this is done, you have taken the first step in saving the marriage.
Sort out the small issues first Address all the minor irritants and encourage your spouse to do the same.
Once you do this you start seeing light at the end of the tunnel and this will further encourage both of you to address the main reasons.
Seek professional help Identify a professional marriage counselor and schedule an appointment.
Go there together and meet up with that professional.
It might take several sittings before he or she is able to give their assessment.
Once you have got a feedback make a joint resolve to solve all the issues amicably.
Start working on it This is perhaps the most important step that you will have to take.
On your part make a sincere effort to change.
Seeing you putting in your effort your spouse will also do that and she/he will meet you halfway.
This is just the beginning and soon enough you will find that things are not so bad after all.
Work on it Remember marriage is work in progress and you will have to continuously work on it to make it a success.
Don't go back to your old ways once you have avoided the inevitable.