Caught Up in a Rebound Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do About It
The most important thing after a breakup is to be honest, even brutally so, with yourself and others.
Chances are that if you just can't accept the breakup you are more likely to find yourself in a rebound relationship.
Sometimes these can work out but more often than not they are very short-lived and can be pretty damaging both for you and your 'rebound'.
And remember, if you see your ex dating someone shortly after you've broken up then don't worry too much, it is probably just a rebound, pretty meaningless and will end soon.
How do you know if you're in a rebound relationship? If it's pretty soon after the breakup, then you need to consider that it might be a rebound.
In that case go over the following checklist: - Are you still thinking constantly about your ex, or even on a daily basis? - Do you still feel intense emotions when thinking about them or about the relationship? - Are there some things in particular that really bother you about the relationship that you really start obsessing over? If you answer yes to these questions then you have gotten yourself into a rebound relationship.
It is best to prevent that from happening by asking yourself these questions when you meet someone you think you would like to date pretty soon after your breakup.
If you are already getting cozy with that new someone special then be very honest with them about your current situation.
If they really like you, they'll appreciate your honesty and seriously consider waiting a while for you to sort yourself out.
In fact, if they are also in a rebound relationship, not only will they 'fess up', but you might find that the both of you are okay being each other's rebounds for a short while, just to help ease the pain.
And why not, there are plenty of situations where this has happened and both parties have been the happier for it.
Just make sure that if only one of you is on the rebound, whether it is you or your new partner, that you take it slow.
Don't invest your time, energy and emotions too heavily in it initially.
There are plenty of cases where a rebound relationship has developed into something more over time, but the key to these has been an extremely difficult and delicate process of taking it easy, taking it slow and being very careful.
Don't let the rebounder set the pace or the tone of the relationship and if you are the rebounder then don't rush through things trying to make up for lost time.
And, of course, a rebound relationship is a great way to make your ex jealous, make them miss you and get them to start thinking about you romantically again.
Again, be very honest with your rebound about your situation.
If you do find that you want to try to rekindle your relationship with your ex, there is a simple, down to earth, step by step guide authored by T 'Dub' Jackson called "The Magic of Making Up.
" And you know, it does work like magic if you really want to ditch your rebound relationship and get back together with your ex.
Chances are that if you just can't accept the breakup you are more likely to find yourself in a rebound relationship.
Sometimes these can work out but more often than not they are very short-lived and can be pretty damaging both for you and your 'rebound'.
And remember, if you see your ex dating someone shortly after you've broken up then don't worry too much, it is probably just a rebound, pretty meaningless and will end soon.
How do you know if you're in a rebound relationship? If it's pretty soon after the breakup, then you need to consider that it might be a rebound.
In that case go over the following checklist: - Are you still thinking constantly about your ex, or even on a daily basis? - Do you still feel intense emotions when thinking about them or about the relationship? - Are there some things in particular that really bother you about the relationship that you really start obsessing over? If you answer yes to these questions then you have gotten yourself into a rebound relationship.
It is best to prevent that from happening by asking yourself these questions when you meet someone you think you would like to date pretty soon after your breakup.
If you are already getting cozy with that new someone special then be very honest with them about your current situation.
If they really like you, they'll appreciate your honesty and seriously consider waiting a while for you to sort yourself out.
In fact, if they are also in a rebound relationship, not only will they 'fess up', but you might find that the both of you are okay being each other's rebounds for a short while, just to help ease the pain.
And why not, there are plenty of situations where this has happened and both parties have been the happier for it.
Just make sure that if only one of you is on the rebound, whether it is you or your new partner, that you take it slow.
Don't invest your time, energy and emotions too heavily in it initially.
There are plenty of cases where a rebound relationship has developed into something more over time, but the key to these has been an extremely difficult and delicate process of taking it easy, taking it slow and being very careful.
Don't let the rebounder set the pace or the tone of the relationship and if you are the rebounder then don't rush through things trying to make up for lost time.
And, of course, a rebound relationship is a great way to make your ex jealous, make them miss you and get them to start thinking about you romantically again.
Again, be very honest with your rebound about your situation.
If you do find that you want to try to rekindle your relationship with your ex, there is a simple, down to earth, step by step guide authored by T 'Dub' Jackson called "The Magic of Making Up.
" And you know, it does work like magic if you really want to ditch your rebound relationship and get back together with your ex.