3 Signs of a Marriage in Trouble, and What to Do About Them
You know that marriages have their ups and downs, but how do you know if your marriage is in serious trouble? Arguments don't necessarily mean that your marriage is in danger of ending.
They're just disagreements taken a step further.
Fighting, however can be dangerous, especially when it gets physical.
Here are three signs of a marriage is in trouble - serious trouble.
1.
You dread going home, or when your spouse is coming home.
Feelings like this only get worse.
You or your spouse find ways to avoid going home, to avoid arguments.
It's time for both of you to take a break.
Find something that both of you like to do, and find a way to do it.
Relax with each other.
When the tension starts to ease, you will both be reminded of how much you love each other.
2.
Neither of you can find anything nice to say to each other.
this happens when the tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife.
Even though you may not want to, find a way to compliment your spouse.
Tell they look nice.
If they get a haircut or go to a gym, compliment on their appearance.
If they did work around the house, tell them they did a good job.
They may look at you like you're crazy at first, but it will give their self esteem a little boost, and they will start to feel better about themselves.
When they do, they will do the same for you.
You'll find that they return the compliments, and you will start to feel better about yourself, too.
3.
A lack of sex is a big problem for many married couples.
When the sex disappears, the first thing that comes to mind is that one spouse is having an affair.
This may not be what is happening at all.
There are many reasons for lack of interest in sex.
Exhaustion, depression, and certain medications lower sexual desire.
Stress can also be a culprit.
Boredom in the bedroom is another.
Don't confuse sex with intimacy, though.
They are actually different things.
Even if a couple doesn't have sex, that doesn't mean they can't be intimate.
Intimacy is any physical contact.
A touch, hug or kiss.
Intimacy plays a big role in a marriage.
To bring intimacy back into your marriage, start small.
If you pass each other in a room, walk close enough to your spouse that you touch.
Shoulders, hands, legs, it doesn't matter.
Give your spouse a hug for no reason except that they are there.
Physical touch is important for people, whether they admit it or not.
When you start to bring intimacy back into your marriage, other things are sure to follow.
They're just disagreements taken a step further.
Fighting, however can be dangerous, especially when it gets physical.
Here are three signs of a marriage is in trouble - serious trouble.
1.
You dread going home, or when your spouse is coming home.
Feelings like this only get worse.
You or your spouse find ways to avoid going home, to avoid arguments.
It's time for both of you to take a break.
Find something that both of you like to do, and find a way to do it.
Relax with each other.
When the tension starts to ease, you will both be reminded of how much you love each other.
2.
Neither of you can find anything nice to say to each other.
this happens when the tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife.
Even though you may not want to, find a way to compliment your spouse.
Tell they look nice.
If they get a haircut or go to a gym, compliment on their appearance.
If they did work around the house, tell them they did a good job.
They may look at you like you're crazy at first, but it will give their self esteem a little boost, and they will start to feel better about themselves.
When they do, they will do the same for you.
You'll find that they return the compliments, and you will start to feel better about yourself, too.
3.
A lack of sex is a big problem for many married couples.
When the sex disappears, the first thing that comes to mind is that one spouse is having an affair.
This may not be what is happening at all.
There are many reasons for lack of interest in sex.
Exhaustion, depression, and certain medications lower sexual desire.
Stress can also be a culprit.
Boredom in the bedroom is another.
Don't confuse sex with intimacy, though.
They are actually different things.
Even if a couple doesn't have sex, that doesn't mean they can't be intimate.
Intimacy is any physical contact.
A touch, hug or kiss.
Intimacy plays a big role in a marriage.
To bring intimacy back into your marriage, start small.
If you pass each other in a room, walk close enough to your spouse that you touch.
Shoulders, hands, legs, it doesn't matter.
Give your spouse a hug for no reason except that they are there.
Physical touch is important for people, whether they admit it or not.
When you start to bring intimacy back into your marriage, other things are sure to follow.