How to Stop Divorces
- 1). Create distance. This may or may not mean physical distance, but it certainly means emotional and mental distance. With this distance you will begin to see the problems more objectively and gain some insight. It's always easier to analyze a situation when you're not in the midst of an angry shouting match or a bout of tearful pleading.
- 2). Maintain limited communication. Tell your spouse that you love him and that he is top priority. Affirm your spouse. Where possible, take responsibility for your own shortcomings and contributions to the rift between the two of you. However, resist the urge to go overboard with these gestures and smother him with affection; this is likely to drive him further away.
- 3). Resist the urge to be vicious or vindictive. You may often feel unfairly treated and harshly characterized by your spouse. These feelings are valid. However, know that fighting fire with fire will only ensure that the situation between the two of you worsens, and it will just add to the number of offenses for which you will eventually have to apologize. Even if your spouse seems bent on provoking you, remember that you are in control of how you respond. Take a deep breath before you do and consider carefully the long-term consequences of what you say next.