Please Save My Marriage
For the unsuspecting person in a relationship who finds out he's partner is cheating it is virtually like a stab in the heart.
I can remember being in a situation where my life was rosy, I had a loving husband a great job and the kids were at a great stage in their development.
They were active kids that were starting to develop a sense of independence and no longer needed constant watching at play.
My husband had a demanding job that at times meant interstate travel staying overnight from time to time.
That was not a problem as parents I juggled my job to be there when he wasn't and visa versa.
This is typical of how all our friends balance their lives between babysitters, school and sport commitments.
Whenever my husband was interstate he would always call to speak to the kids before bed and to recall to me of how he's day had been.
Always at the end of the call I would get "I love you" everything thing to me seemed normal.
Looking back though I was blind to the fact that he started to lose a little weight that he had gained with 8 years of marriage but I just put that down to being on a health kick and in my mind I could see the exercise was alleviating the stress from he's job so I thought that a good idea he keep up with it.
With the weight loss came the need for new clothes, but he purchased clothes a little young for him and not the normal clothes of a man would normally buy he's age.
When he needed to go away again for the 4th time in the month he complained that he hated travelling and would rather be home but the urgent project needed to completed by the end of the month.
To gullible me, told him "don't worry sweetheart you will be home before you know it".
Signs you should look for on an unfaithful spouse: 1.
starts dieting and concerned about appearance 2.
sudden desire to exercise 3.
traveling more often with work - especially away from home overnight 4.
disinterested in sex 5.
starts talking a lot about the same person met either through work or social 6.
taking showers more regularly - usually to wash away evidence 7.
strange numbers appearing on he's mobile account While he was away I thought I would give him a surprise and wash he's car since he hadn't had time to do so.
I started cleaning and it was me that got a surprise as I found 2 Valentine's Day cards I thought to myself that is unusual couldn't he make up he's mind I thought as I placed the cards back where I found them as I didn't want to spoil he's surprise.
In the morning a week later I opened my card and chocolates and gave him a big kiss.
He made some feeble excuse to go to work and wouldn't be long, after he came home 4 hours later saying it took longer than he thought and he was going to take a shower.
While he was showering I went to the car and found the other card was missing and deeper in the pocket of the seat I found the card but it wasn't the card that I saw previously it was from he's Executive Assistant Kim saying how much she loved going away with him and how good the sex was.
I stared at the card in disbelief and feeling a roller coaster of emotions.
Crying, laughing, angry upset I felt it all in that brief moment.
My world at that very instant changed forever, he obviously was showering to rid himself of her smells so I wouldn't be any wiser.
It felt like I had a stab wound in my heart.
The kids were not at home luckily..
I sat on the edge of the bed waiting for him to finish he's shower he came out with a towel around him saying "the kids are away, let's make the most of it" and I glared at him and said wouldn't you be rather be sleeping with Kim? Of course he denied it and said it was all in my imagination.
It took a little while before he confessed and said it was only sex there was nothing more to it.
I was absolutely repelled by the mere look of him, I couldn't be in the same room or I would be sick.
My Tips to Save a Marriage: * Don't neglect your marriage it always needs effort to keep it alive eg: talk, touch and intimacy are a must * Do something that you like to do together, perhaps learn to dance go to the movies * Be involved in each others lives - and listen to what the other person is saying when they are talking * Make a dinner date regularly so you can keep the intimacy alive * Keep looking after yourself, learn to forget and love him all over again * Write notes that your partner will find
I can remember being in a situation where my life was rosy, I had a loving husband a great job and the kids were at a great stage in their development.
They were active kids that were starting to develop a sense of independence and no longer needed constant watching at play.
My husband had a demanding job that at times meant interstate travel staying overnight from time to time.
That was not a problem as parents I juggled my job to be there when he wasn't and visa versa.
This is typical of how all our friends balance their lives between babysitters, school and sport commitments.
Whenever my husband was interstate he would always call to speak to the kids before bed and to recall to me of how he's day had been.
Always at the end of the call I would get "I love you" everything thing to me seemed normal.
Looking back though I was blind to the fact that he started to lose a little weight that he had gained with 8 years of marriage but I just put that down to being on a health kick and in my mind I could see the exercise was alleviating the stress from he's job so I thought that a good idea he keep up with it.
With the weight loss came the need for new clothes, but he purchased clothes a little young for him and not the normal clothes of a man would normally buy he's age.
When he needed to go away again for the 4th time in the month he complained that he hated travelling and would rather be home but the urgent project needed to completed by the end of the month.
To gullible me, told him "don't worry sweetheart you will be home before you know it".
Signs you should look for on an unfaithful spouse: 1.
starts dieting and concerned about appearance 2.
sudden desire to exercise 3.
traveling more often with work - especially away from home overnight 4.
disinterested in sex 5.
starts talking a lot about the same person met either through work or social 6.
taking showers more regularly - usually to wash away evidence 7.
strange numbers appearing on he's mobile account While he was away I thought I would give him a surprise and wash he's car since he hadn't had time to do so.
I started cleaning and it was me that got a surprise as I found 2 Valentine's Day cards I thought to myself that is unusual couldn't he make up he's mind I thought as I placed the cards back where I found them as I didn't want to spoil he's surprise.
In the morning a week later I opened my card and chocolates and gave him a big kiss.
He made some feeble excuse to go to work and wouldn't be long, after he came home 4 hours later saying it took longer than he thought and he was going to take a shower.
While he was showering I went to the car and found the other card was missing and deeper in the pocket of the seat I found the card but it wasn't the card that I saw previously it was from he's Executive Assistant Kim saying how much she loved going away with him and how good the sex was.
I stared at the card in disbelief and feeling a roller coaster of emotions.
Crying, laughing, angry upset I felt it all in that brief moment.
My world at that very instant changed forever, he obviously was showering to rid himself of her smells so I wouldn't be any wiser.
It felt like I had a stab wound in my heart.
The kids were not at home luckily..
I sat on the edge of the bed waiting for him to finish he's shower he came out with a towel around him saying "the kids are away, let's make the most of it" and I glared at him and said wouldn't you be rather be sleeping with Kim? Of course he denied it and said it was all in my imagination.
It took a little while before he confessed and said it was only sex there was nothing more to it.
I was absolutely repelled by the mere look of him, I couldn't be in the same room or I would be sick.
My Tips to Save a Marriage: * Don't neglect your marriage it always needs effort to keep it alive eg: talk, touch and intimacy are a must * Do something that you like to do together, perhaps learn to dance go to the movies * Be involved in each others lives - and listen to what the other person is saying when they are talking * Make a dinner date regularly so you can keep the intimacy alive * Keep looking after yourself, learn to forget and love him all over again * Write notes that your partner will find