Domestic Abuse and Divorce - Do You Have Access to Your Part of the Family Money?
Women in abusive relationships going through divorce usually share the same issue when it comes to money: They don't have access to it.
Their abusive partners control the finances.
It's all part of the territory of being in an abusive relationship.
Now there are huge variations with respect to financial control in abusive relationships.
Money and Abusive Relationships Some women can't use a credit card on an "unapproved" purchase...
(unapproved by their controlling partner).
Others have only so much cash on hand and when that's gone, that's it...
there just isn't any more, until doled out again.
The financial purse stings are so tight that when you look at these women (if you didn't know the dynamics that they live), you would think you were looking at a three-year-old child with candy machine money.
And that's exactly what they feel like...
a child when it comes to money.
Then, there are other women in abusive relationships that earn their own money through employment or an entrepreneurial pursuit.
They usually have greater independence and more access to financial resources.
Finely, there are the "resourceful" survivors who have found a way to "save" from what has been doled out or from their independent earnings...
or both.
Divorce and Abusive Relationships Now when these women enter into divorce, the dynamics of their relationship don't change.
They still have the exact same access-or lack of access-to marital money.
Funny thing is they often express surprise over this.
It's as though, on some level, they thought that by being in a divorce proceeding, all this would change.
But the fact is the only thing that changes is that they are in a divorce proceeding...
and each party has their respective legal counsel added to the mix - woven into the dynamics of their abusive relationship.
Your Rights in Your Abusive Divorce Battered women under financial control think their problem is that their partners control the family money.
However, their real problem is not their partner's control, but rather the fact that they have none.
It's not that their soon-to-be ex is controlling the money in their divorce; their real problem is that they themselves are not controlling their share of it.
Even worse, many of these women don't even think they have a share, as they have come to see the money as "his money.
" And then to add insult to injury, more often than not, these women remain in the dark regarding their financial rights.
Stay with me...
it gets worse.
When the term "financial rights" comes in the conversation, they are puzzled that their own attorney hasn't informed them that such rights even exist.
If you are in an abusive relationship navigating divorce proceeding, learn your rights.
Discover what you are entitled to access from "your" marital estate.
You will surprise yourself to see that you are standing in the bank, rather than looking at it from afar.
Their abusive partners control the finances.
It's all part of the territory of being in an abusive relationship.
Now there are huge variations with respect to financial control in abusive relationships.
Money and Abusive Relationships Some women can't use a credit card on an "unapproved" purchase...
(unapproved by their controlling partner).
Others have only so much cash on hand and when that's gone, that's it...
there just isn't any more, until doled out again.
The financial purse stings are so tight that when you look at these women (if you didn't know the dynamics that they live), you would think you were looking at a three-year-old child with candy machine money.
And that's exactly what they feel like...
a child when it comes to money.
Then, there are other women in abusive relationships that earn their own money through employment or an entrepreneurial pursuit.
They usually have greater independence and more access to financial resources.
Finely, there are the "resourceful" survivors who have found a way to "save" from what has been doled out or from their independent earnings...
or both.
Divorce and Abusive Relationships Now when these women enter into divorce, the dynamics of their relationship don't change.
They still have the exact same access-or lack of access-to marital money.
Funny thing is they often express surprise over this.
It's as though, on some level, they thought that by being in a divorce proceeding, all this would change.
But the fact is the only thing that changes is that they are in a divorce proceeding...
and each party has their respective legal counsel added to the mix - woven into the dynamics of their abusive relationship.
Your Rights in Your Abusive Divorce Battered women under financial control think their problem is that their partners control the family money.
However, their real problem is not their partner's control, but rather the fact that they have none.
It's not that their soon-to-be ex is controlling the money in their divorce; their real problem is that they themselves are not controlling their share of it.
Even worse, many of these women don't even think they have a share, as they have come to see the money as "his money.
" And then to add insult to injury, more often than not, these women remain in the dark regarding their financial rights.
Stay with me...
it gets worse.
When the term "financial rights" comes in the conversation, they are puzzled that their own attorney hasn't informed them that such rights even exist.
If you are in an abusive relationship navigating divorce proceeding, learn your rights.
Discover what you are entitled to access from "your" marital estate.
You will surprise yourself to see that you are standing in the bank, rather than looking at it from afar.