7 Ways to Save Your Marriage and Get Out of a Marriage Rut
If your marriage is on the brink of divorce and you're looking for ways to save your marriage then this article may offer some friendly and useful advice.
It's far too common for marriages to fail simply because one or both parties get bored in the marriage and the sparks simply die out.
I've outlined 7 ways for you to save your marriage and get out of the marriage rut in this article and hope they are of help to you and yours.
Have a weekly date night.
If budget is tight then don't worry.
If you have kids, have a church member or family member watch the kids for you.
Simply stay in your home and have a game night.
Play checkers, Sorry, Battleship or whatever games you like.
If the weather is nice, play games outdoors.
Design one room in your home to be a peaceful room.
If you don't have one room in your home that is free of clutter, then spend time together a make one room in your home clutter free.
Spend about 15 minutes a day in this peaceful room.
Feeling relaxed and calm will not only help you, it'll help your marriage as well.
Write a love letter to your spouse and mail it to them (preferably next day air with USPS).
Don't put a return address on it either.
Write a letter telling your spouse how in love with them you are.
Think about all the things about your spouse you loved when you first met and talk about them in the letter.
When you're finished, simply drop the letter in the mail and wait for his/her response.
You'll be amazed at what that one letter can do to save your marriage.
Set aside time one evening to make plans for your future together.
Talk about what each of you want in life and make an action plan to accomplish these plans.
Then examine where you are in your life and how you can help your partner get to where he/she wants.
As Zig Ziglar says, "you can have everything you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want".
Spend at least 10 minutes a day with your spouse and talk about your day together.
Make this a habit.
Don't go to bed together until this has been accomplished.
It doesn't have to be a drag.
You can make it fun.
Go for a walk together, talk over dinner, watch the sun set (or sun rise).
But devote 10 minutes a day to your partner and watch your marriage grow.
You'll be glad you did.
Do something new each day.
It could be simple like take a new route to work, cook a new dish, watch a new T.
V show together, plant some flowers.
These simple little things will make your day different and help you get out of marriage rut.
And don't forget flowers.
Buy flowers for your spouse (men too).
A simple $7.
00 bouquet of flowers will make your spouse feel appreciated and special, so why not do it.
The seventh way to save your marriage and get out of a marriage rut I learned from an Elder at my church.
Here's what he said...
"Find out all the things she likes...
and do all of them.
Then, find out the things she does not like...
and don't do any of them".
It sounds so simple, yet it's so true.
Odds are after you've been married for several years you've developed habits that your spouse doesn't like.
Eventually, this will turn your spouse off and he or she will think less of you and become less attracted to you.
That's an area in marriage you don't want to be, I can assure you.
So stop doing the things your spouse doesn't like and do a lot of the things your spouse does like.
It's far too common for marriages to fail simply because one or both parties get bored in the marriage and the sparks simply die out.
I've outlined 7 ways for you to save your marriage and get out of the marriage rut in this article and hope they are of help to you and yours.
Have a weekly date night.
If budget is tight then don't worry.
If you have kids, have a church member or family member watch the kids for you.
Simply stay in your home and have a game night.
Play checkers, Sorry, Battleship or whatever games you like.
If the weather is nice, play games outdoors.
Design one room in your home to be a peaceful room.
If you don't have one room in your home that is free of clutter, then spend time together a make one room in your home clutter free.
Spend about 15 minutes a day in this peaceful room.
Feeling relaxed and calm will not only help you, it'll help your marriage as well.
Write a love letter to your spouse and mail it to them (preferably next day air with USPS).
Don't put a return address on it either.
Write a letter telling your spouse how in love with them you are.
Think about all the things about your spouse you loved when you first met and talk about them in the letter.
When you're finished, simply drop the letter in the mail and wait for his/her response.
You'll be amazed at what that one letter can do to save your marriage.
Set aside time one evening to make plans for your future together.
Talk about what each of you want in life and make an action plan to accomplish these plans.
Then examine where you are in your life and how you can help your partner get to where he/she wants.
As Zig Ziglar says, "you can have everything you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want".
Spend at least 10 minutes a day with your spouse and talk about your day together.
Make this a habit.
Don't go to bed together until this has been accomplished.
It doesn't have to be a drag.
You can make it fun.
Go for a walk together, talk over dinner, watch the sun set (or sun rise).
But devote 10 minutes a day to your partner and watch your marriage grow.
You'll be glad you did.
Do something new each day.
It could be simple like take a new route to work, cook a new dish, watch a new T.
V show together, plant some flowers.
These simple little things will make your day different and help you get out of marriage rut.
And don't forget flowers.
Buy flowers for your spouse (men too).
A simple $7.
00 bouquet of flowers will make your spouse feel appreciated and special, so why not do it.
The seventh way to save your marriage and get out of a marriage rut I learned from an Elder at my church.
Here's what he said...
"Find out all the things she likes...
and do all of them.
Then, find out the things she does not like...
and don't do any of them".
It sounds so simple, yet it's so true.
Odds are after you've been married for several years you've developed habits that your spouse doesn't like.
Eventually, this will turn your spouse off and he or she will think less of you and become less attracted to you.
That's an area in marriage you don't want to be, I can assure you.
So stop doing the things your spouse doesn't like and do a lot of the things your spouse does like.