The One Big Lie He Tells the Other Woman to Have a Sexual Affair
How Telling His Mistress "You Don't Understand Him" Helps Him Cheat
One of the most hurtful aspects of an affair is the discovery that intimate details of your relationship with your husband or boyfriend have been shared with an outside party. And not just the lovey-dovey, happy details, oh no! We're talking the dirty, deep, dark details that you don't even want your best friends to know about. As if this weren't bad enough, he's not sharing them with someone you even know or trust - but another woman he shares passionate interest in!
Most cheating men know that they'll have to justify their infidelity to the other woman at some point in their relationship, whether it's in the very beginning or at the very point in which they decide to voluntarily inform them. As numerous women don't stand for cheating, there's a chance that most of the women he approaches brushes him off. On the other hand, there are still women who allow themselves to remain involved with such a man.
Why is this?
Simple: He justifies that they "understand him" and "you don't."
In his mind, anyone but his woman is understanding, compassionate and caring when it comes to his relationship and life troubles. This isn't a completely surprising thought, but what your man fails to understand is that anyone but his wife or girlfriend lacks enough knowledge to determine whether there's a factual basis for what he says. While he laments that you don't "give him space" and others agree this isn't right, they may not understand that his idea of space is disappearing for days at a time without answering the phone or simply checking in to say hello. (Nevermind that impromptu trip to Vegas.)
While you can counter-argue the things he says and does, chances are the other woman doesn't because she assumes that he knows you well enough, and wouldn't lie on you. Remember, his angle is that he loves you unconditionally, even if you're a stubborn woman with security issues, and just needs someone to take his mind off the problems you give him at home, because he's the victim.
Instead of running from this red flag, the other woman will more than likely feel flattered that your man has chosen her to confide in. His lamentations build a false sense of intimacy that plays on her ego, making her further open to his advances. Besides, why would she be upset when he's not talking about her, but talking to her... about your shortcomings?
One of the most hurtful aspects of an affair is the discovery that intimate details of your relationship with your husband or boyfriend have been shared with an outside party. And not just the lovey-dovey, happy details, oh no! We're talking the dirty, deep, dark details that you don't even want your best friends to know about. As if this weren't bad enough, he's not sharing them with someone you even know or trust - but another woman he shares passionate interest in!
Most cheating men know that they'll have to justify their infidelity to the other woman at some point in their relationship, whether it's in the very beginning or at the very point in which they decide to voluntarily inform them. As numerous women don't stand for cheating, there's a chance that most of the women he approaches brushes him off. On the other hand, there are still women who allow themselves to remain involved with such a man.
Why is this?
Simple: He justifies that they "understand him" and "you don't."
In his mind, anyone but his woman is understanding, compassionate and caring when it comes to his relationship and life troubles. This isn't a completely surprising thought, but what your man fails to understand is that anyone but his wife or girlfriend lacks enough knowledge to determine whether there's a factual basis for what he says. While he laments that you don't "give him space" and others agree this isn't right, they may not understand that his idea of space is disappearing for days at a time without answering the phone or simply checking in to say hello. (Nevermind that impromptu trip to Vegas.)
While you can counter-argue the things he says and does, chances are the other woman doesn't because she assumes that he knows you well enough, and wouldn't lie on you. Remember, his angle is that he loves you unconditionally, even if you're a stubborn woman with security issues, and just needs someone to take his mind off the problems you give him at home, because he's the victim.
Instead of running from this red flag, the other woman will more than likely feel flattered that your man has chosen her to confide in. His lamentations build a false sense of intimacy that plays on her ego, making her further open to his advances. Besides, why would she be upset when he's not talking about her, but talking to her... about your shortcomings?