Coping with divorce for men can mean different things; especially if the divorce was not their idea.
Divorce is never pretty, but it is a little bit worse when you are surprised by it.
Some men cope by lashing out; which is not really a good idea and can lead to all sorts of trouble.
Others take to attempting to enjoy the single life a little too zealously.
Again, not really a good idea.
One of the best ways of coping with divorce for men is to be able to look at the facts and really sit down and talk with someone.
Lawyers tend to become those sounding boards whether they are intended or not.
Your lawyer is someone you have to trust so you assume that you can talk with them.
While some of them may have gotten good with advice (depending on how long they have been in the field) it is not always your best option.
Friends, family, and sometimes even colleagues can be a great source for just talking your way through things.
Talking can help you put things in perspective.
You should also realize that you will want to sit down and actually talk with your children as well.
They need to know that it is not their fault, and they need to hear it more than once.
Getting them to deal with the issue is one way of reducing your stress levels as well.
Trust me, you are going to have more than enough stress already.