If you are a human being, then you most certainly like to be recognized as an independent individual who is different from all of the rest.
Considering this, you need to discover your ex's personal individuality and unique qualities that define him/her as the one that you want to be with.
Being respectful of what your ex values and how he/she live her life is significant, for if you do so, he/she will appreciate this and show you the same respect in return.
Also, you need to ensure them that you are still understanding of them and then they will probably rethink the whole situation and possibly want to get back together with you.
If you really do want to get back together with your ex, you have to make sure that they know that you cannot settle with a common friendship.
The truth is that this might actually be one of the first things that your ex proposes, a friendship with absolutely no strings attached, simply because they do not want it to be the end of your relationship.
To re-establish a relationship only as friends with your ex would be a regrettable move on your part and usually would not end well.
If you cannot act with your true personality, then you are living a lie and will not be able to keep it up for life.
You cannot hire a counselor or psychiatrist or ask a friend to teach you how you should act in front of your ex, it will never work and will always end badly.
It is important to believe in your own personality and believe that it will be more than enough to convince your ex that you are more than enough for them.
Countless people around the world have had to deal with the same situation as your own, and have also gotten through the tough circumstances.
It is unsaid as to how many times one particular couple will break up, then get back together, only to break up and get back together again (repeated process).
Anything is possible, so get out there and get your ex back!